Saturday, November 24, 2012

Thanksgiving Day, 1971

    I was just 19, full of myself, ridiculously naive, newly married and pregnant!  After eating a huge dinner of goose and all the trimmings, prepared by my mother-in-law, we settled in the living room to watch a little tv.  A popular show that year was "All in the Family", and while we were watching a particularly funny episode (the one where Meathead suffers from impotence) I felt a peculiar sensation.  I jumped up quickly, to protect my mother-in-law's couch, and rushed to the bathroom.
     Well, guess what!  That night just before midnight I gave birth to my first baby, 6# 11oz of beautiful baby girl, whom we named Kerry Ellen Phillips.  A few days later, we brought her home to our tiny one bedroom apartment with a crib in our bedroom.  I was definitely underprepared, as far as   what it took to be a parent.  We didn't have much as far as baby clothes, and furniture, however, back in those days, babies required about a tenth of what they require these days! :)  I also was quite short in the area of wisdom and common sense!  Thank The Lord for my mother-in-law!  She definitely made up for what I lacked in the area of mothering skills.
   But we all loved this little girl!  She was perfect in every way.  She deserved much better than what we were able to give her.  A few years later, while she was still little, her dad and I ended up getting divorced, and because of my own lack of self-esteem,  I thought she would be better off with her grandma and her dad, a decision I have regretted ever since.  Both of her paternal grandparents died while she was still little.  What she was left with was an absent mother and a father with a fatal flaw.
    But God is God, and despite all this, my Kerry grew up to be a smart, compassionate , hard-working, loving young woman, and an amazing mother to her own two girls.  I am so proud of her and grateful for the relationship we share!
     Happy birthday, dear Kerry!  I love you so much!

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